A Digital Magician

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Sep 2

PSA FOR CIS FOLKS:

skepticalspectacles:

When a trans person tells you it’s okay for mistakenly using the wrong name or pronouns, it means the instance is forgiven or dismissed and the conversation can move on. In reality, it still hurts but we say it’s okay because we understand you are making an effort to get it right. This is not an invitation to stop making that effort. You are not the exclusion to the rule.

(via angel-within)


  • 14 years old: I'm young but I know what I want. This isn't that hard, I'm all grown up already and have everything figured out.
  • 17 years old: Well, this is a little harder than I thought. School is almost ending. What am I going to do with my life?
  • 21 years old: What the fuck is going on? Where are my socks?

thevoicecalledcheesecake:

I would never let my kids watch the orchestra, too much sax and violins.

(via renntastic)


Anonymous said: God dammit, Bad Advisor! How did you become so awesome?!

thatbadadvice:

Years of fucking shit up pretty bad and trying not to do it the same way next time.


One Week With a New Name

So, my post Wednesday was all big for me, but I didn’t really talk about it much. The truth is, I was a bit overwhelmed between work, and prepping for travel, and all the response. (Seriously, thank you, everyone who responded and shared and liked. It meant the world.)

So now that I have insomnia, I figure sitting down with my thoughts is a good idea.

Behind the scenes, the Have a Gay Day post was written Friday night/Saturday morning. It was during my editing pass that I realized I was tired of using GQ when I’d had so many more feminine days than masculine (To the point of I can think of maybe one masculine day in six months) and really felt it was time to go from a small number of friends using feminine pronouns to any of my safe spaces being feminine. I’d even picked out a name I had been rolling around as a “gender neutral” name that I associate with femininity. And so I got to move directly to that name even.

The week has been fantastic. Any doubts I had about my gender identity wash up fairly quickly as another person uses the new pronouns or new name and I let out a happy sound and realize I like it. No, I love it. Being Piper is amazing.

The most interesting thing is: I have not had a day of being depressed. In a week and a half, I haven’t had the days of feeling ill-at-ease. Like, my mental health has been improving since I got my new job, since I got my own place. But for a week and a half, the only times I’ve felt at all depressed is when I’m being actively misgendered.

Yeah, I’ve already been actively misgendered. And told to pray. And that choosing to surgically correct something is an affront to God.

Also, she’s a friend.

I don’t even know how to express how low that talk brought me. But my response to this depression wasn’t shutting down like I used to. I got angry. I got assertive. I even got slightly manipulative in trying to present my argument in a way she would understand.

I came back from being told I was wrong with a resounding “no.”

For those who don’t know my history, I’m a domestic violence survivor, and I don’t say no well. In fact it takes a lot of effort to decide to say no, and a hell of a lot of guts to put it out there.

This no was easy. It’s ridiculous how a week of happiness changes your perspective in what you deserve.


bustinrainbows said: I have a question. I'm ftm trans, and sometimes I get misgendered in public/at work. I was wondering how others trans persons handle this happening? Do you correct the stranger, or let it go? I feel awkward correcting them but I hate wrong pronouns.

haveagaydayorg:

What do you guys do when Stranger A (who you’ll never see again,ish) misgenders you?

Currently, ignore it and hope it doesn’t cause me to spiral.


The Rules: 
Post the rules.
Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked.
Write 11 new questions.
Tag 11 people and link them to the post; Actually tell them you tagged them.

I was tagged by uswe

1. What’s your favorite day of the week?

Umm… A month ago I’d have said Friday, because board games, but it’s more or less Tuesday because I go to Python meets. (Also Teen Wolf if I’m not over tired.)

2. How much Lisa Frank stuff did you have as a kid?

None.

3. What’s the ultimate crossover episode?

I’m not big on crossovers?

4. How would you survive Beacon Hills?

Keep my head down and my eyes open.

5. What languages do you speak?

English and a tiny amount of ASL for natural languages.

Python, Go, Ruby, and some Javascript for logical languages.

6. What languages do you wish you spoke?

German and something Chinese (it’s been a while since I did my research, so I can’t remember if Mandarin or Cantonese is the one I intend.)

7. Pumpkin spice flavored everything or eggnog flavored everything?

Pumpkin spice not because I like it more, because I’m less likely to get sick of it.

8. How do you come across new music?

elliedaforge, Spotify, and occasionally I send out requests for shit to listen to on Twitter/FB

9. What’s the longest you can imagine doing the job you’re doing?

In how specific of a fashion? With my current company on the current project? Two years, maybe three.

In my industry doing the same thing? I’ll probably die doing it.

10. What’s your plan for a zombie apocalypse?

Commune. In a desert.

11. What trope would you want to see me write?

Generally, I’d rather see you subvert tropes.


Should be sleeping, can’t sleep, so blogging it is.



lunacode:

vulcandroid:

nice gender did your parents pick it out for you

No, they had shitty taste


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